i think there’s a middle ground where he can not be in pain all the time but still be a little damaged. if dean lived to be 80 years old he still would not be as well adjusted as some people want to see him in my opinion because his identity was founded in/through childhood trauma and that’s not going away even if he does EMDR for 20 yearsĮXACTLY!!! i hope it’s ok to add this to this chain and i hope you see it but like, trauma is so complicated and hard and healing is hard work and it looks different for everyone. not to sound anti-healing because I do think he is capable of growth and change and happiness and should have that like duh but also some of the narratives around it often make me wonder what they think healing from 40+ years of compound traumas can even look like. Re: your reply to that therapy ask thank youuuu for saying it because the popular post-canon dean headcanons are in many cases just like, who is that? this is not my beloved bastard man. like i’m glad y’all are having a good time but who the fuck is that sometimes i see art of dean like wearing pride buttons and carrying a dog and a baby and a starbucks coffee while sweet talking cas on the phone in public and it’s like…who…is that. like everyone is allowed to have fun and i’m the one being a killjoy and most of the time i am FIRMLY against this sort of sentiment but man.

but all of these things at once is just…a lot. individually, you might very well sell me on a therapy fic, or an AA fic, or a baby jack fic, or even a pride fic. like, not to mention burning the car again, but metaphorically that’s the same as burning the car. I feel like it’s vaguely related to this other trend of like, hating on john so much we forget to care about dean - which is the exact REASON we all (should) hate john. it’s this fucking batshit insane trend i’ve noticed lately where compound and compile so many Soft Headcanons about dean that he turns into the supernatural equivalent of hatsune miku binder thomas jefferson. the therapy AND the dog AND the minivan AND the pta meetings AND the baby AND the salads AND the pride pins AND the getting sober. what i have a problem with is everything put together.

Lol no, not really, but you’re getting stuck on the details! i don’t necessarily have a problem with dean going to therapy, or therapy in general (even though i wouldn’t be interested in watching or reading it because i don’t think it makes for very good fiction - maybe i’ve just been to too much therapy). (anon is talking about this post, i think)

I don't really understand why you think dean shouldn't go to therapy? i get that his life and history made him who he is, but like, working on not actively being in emotional pain constantly doesn't erase that history or make him boring.

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